I have this story to share about my horrific online dating experience. This could have happened outside the Internet dating scheme, but I met this person online, and she turned my life upside down for the following year. In this article I will refer to her as Gina although it is not her real name.
I met Gina online one Sunday evening in early September a few years ago when I was home on my computer through a chat line. After typing back and forth for over an hour we realized we lived within a few miles of each another and thought we had a lot in common. Within a week we met for a coffee. We were both physically attracted to each other and agreed to meet again. So after a few more dates and talking on the phone every night we had an official relationship. The first few weeks were great as I was falling for her. There is one thing I do remember however that I will never forget. I introduced her to a good friend of mine and the first thing he said later on was “Watch out for that one. I can see the evil in her eyes”. I thought he was crazy. I should have listed to him then.
It was Christmas time that year and Gina was starting to act like a spoiled child when she did not get her way. Now when she started to have her tantrums I just went home. The only problem with that is that my phone would ring a dozen times those evenings that I left her place. I would have to unplug the phone many times because the more I ignored her the worse she got. I was over to a friends house the night before Christmas and told him that after Christmas I was going to end the relationship with Gina. She eavesdropped on the 30 minute conversation that I had about her through my cell phone accidentally. That was something that added fuel to the fire.
For whatever reason, I would always give her another chance. I think Gina had a way to butter me up every time I threatened to leave. I would put up with her bi-polar disorder and the other problems she had because she had a few good qualities. Actually all human beings have a few good qualities in my opinion. So the following summer I told her a few times that I think we needed to part ways and that would make her act crazy. Gina was talking about living together. Living with four kids and in a rocky relationship with knowing her for less than a year, in my opinion was retarded. Did she want an instant Dad? Financial security? I was not about to find out.
So the following September I told Gina that it was over and went home. The next day she called to say that she just got home from the hospital and after we met she showed me a huge band-aid on her wrist from a self inflicted wound. She told me she didn’t want to live. I will have to admit I have never experienced anything like that before. I decided to give it one more chance because I was scared.
October came and Gina was still the same. Now I will admit that I am not perfect. I never have been and never will be. I looked at myself as well to see how I might be able to make this relationship work. I saw some goodness in Gina although the negative certainly outweighed it. I knew that I could not go on like this, so I had to find a way to once and for all end this relationship, that in hindsight, I never should have got into from the beginning.
The next day after telling Gina I wanted to move on, I received a phone call from her to tell me that she was pregnant. I was shocked because I was told many times that she had surgery that prevented this. This went on for a week and I demanded to speak to her doctor and obtain proof. This didn’t happen. The following week Gina revealed to me that she made up the pregnancy story to try to keep me. For me that was the final straw! There was no going back. So, I made one more mistake. I went back to the online dating sites. I soon started talking to a sweet lady online. Gina was history, or so I thought. Kathy was her name and she was everything I was looking for on paper. I never met her in person yet but was very intrigued by her. We talked on the phone many evenings as well. Every time we decided to meet for coffee something would come up for Kathy to prevent us from meeting. A few weeks into this I became suspicious and was wondering if Kathy was real. It was late November, about a month after I met her online, we agreed to meet at a local coffee shop. I was sitting at the cafe waiting much past the time we were supposed to meet, and then, my worse nightmare walked through the door. It was Gina. Kathy called me later that night to say her grandmother passed away and she could not make it.
It was not a coincident. Gina knew about the date I had, beacuse Gina had a friend play Kathy on the phone. I confronted her about this her and she denied it over and over. Her friend actually admitted to it later. To add fuel to the fire, later that week, Gina’s final favor to me was to call my ex wife to tell her lies to make an already tense relationship between my ex and I worse.
So that is my story. I personally wouldn’t wish a relationship like that on my enemies (not that I have many). I am off online dating sites for good now and will never return.
Does anyone still want to play online